You are not an Island

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (‭James‬ ‭5‬:‭16‬ KJV)

Many of us as men think being a man means you have to have all the answers and you must always be right. Thinking this way does not make you the man but it means you are delusional. 

James tells us that we need each other as men when he tells us to pray for one another.  But the problem we have with praying for each other is we are afraid to confess our faults, fears and frustrations to each other for the fear of looking like less than a man. Because of this many among us are sick. Many have become addicted to Pornography, alcohol, drugs and sex. And once pride settles in we do these things and don't see the wrong in them, or we justify them with Grace.  

James says if we confess and pray with and for one another we can be healed. Don't get sin sick because your afraid to let down your guard and confess to your brothers in Christ. Satan wants to get a hold of each of us but the Lord has already made a way of escape. Secret Sins Sink Souls. But confessions brings forth prayer which brings forth the healing and freedom that Jesus has already paid for. 

Be not bitter against Her

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. (‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭19‬ KJV)

Some scriptures are easier said than they are done. When things get heated between us we must apply the scripture and not allow offenses to make there way to our hearts. Bitterness is a heart condition, it takes place when offences are allowed to curdle like spoiled milk in our hearts.  If you have ever tasted spoiled milk it is a taste that is very hard to get out of your mouth just as bitterness is hard to get out of the heart. 

The fact is in marriage we will most likely  Hurt, offend and upset each other. But we must quickly forgive before the offence is allowed to leave its stain and bad smell in our hearts.  

Do you remember why you got married, do you remember the love you had when you said "I DO"?  What has changed since then? Could it be bitterness and or resentment has taken up residence in one of your hearts? If it is your spouse that is resentful, no matter how hard it is go to the top of this post and read the scripture and apply it just as you apply the prescriptions you get from the doctor. If you don't apply the medicine it won't bring about healing.