Mind Control

Control your mind! You will be surrounded by negative thinkers but you don't have to be one of them. We must learn to think on goodly and Godly things. Don't waste your time focusing on negative things (people that wronged you, things you failed at years ago and current situations you have no control over). Instead focus on the fact that your loving God has a plan for your life with all its ups and downs. And everything will work out According to his plan. You get one chance to live today so don't waste it. 

(Scripture)

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭8‬ KJV)

You are not an Island

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (‭James‬ ‭5‬:‭16‬ KJV)

Many of us as men think being a man means you have to have all the answers and you must always be right. Thinking this way does not make you the man but it means you are delusional. 

James tells us that we need each other as men when he tells us to pray for one another.  But the problem we have with praying for each other is we are afraid to confess our faults, fears and frustrations to each other for the fear of looking like less than a man. Because of this many among us are sick. Many have become addicted to Pornography, alcohol, drugs and sex. And once pride settles in we do these things and don't see the wrong in them, or we justify them with Grace.  

James says if we confess and pray with and for one another we can be healed. Don't get sin sick because your afraid to let down your guard and confess to your brothers in Christ. Satan wants to get a hold of each of us but the Lord has already made a way of escape. Secret Sins Sink Souls. But confessions brings forth prayer which brings forth the healing and freedom that Jesus has already paid for. 

Leave your gift at the Altar

This is for married men but it applies to all Christian relationships.

Matt 5:23-25 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.

This scripture tells us if we have a issue with our brother we must leave our gift at the altar and go Fix the relationship then we can come back and give our sacrifice to God. 

How many times do we see angry Worshippers? Worship is directional thus it is useless if the receiver or intended party (God) refuses it. 

God is telling us in order to truly worship the creator we must love the created(Brother, Sister in Christ including your spouse). Your wife is Gods workman ship.

Until your heart is right toward her, your worship to God will be empty and not from the position of s right heart.So when offenses arise take care of them quickly or your worship may not reach its destination. 

Be not bitter against Her

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. (‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭19‬ KJV)

Some scriptures are easier said than they are done. When things get heated between us we must apply the scripture and not allow offenses to make there way to our hearts. Bitterness is a heart condition, it takes place when offences are allowed to curdle like spoiled milk in our hearts.  If you have ever tasted spoiled milk it is a taste that is very hard to get out of your mouth just as bitterness is hard to get out of the heart. 

The fact is in marriage we will most likely  Hurt, offend and upset each other. But we must quickly forgive before the offence is allowed to leave its stain and bad smell in our hearts.  

Do you remember why you got married, do you remember the love you had when you said "I DO"?  What has changed since then? Could it be bitterness and or resentment has taken up residence in one of your hearts? If it is your spouse that is resentful, no matter how hard it is go to the top of this post and read the scripture and apply it just as you apply the prescriptions you get from the doctor. If you don't apply the medicine it won't bring about healing. 

Adultery on the Brain

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. (‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭27-28‬ KJV) 

Adultery is not just the act of sex but it is also looking at a woman lustfully. Many men have repented for physical affairs but how often do we repent from spiritual and emotional affairs that take place in our minds. Unchecked thoughts can lead to actions. Let's repent at the sight of sin. 

What if your wife Can't fulfill your needs

 Genesis 17:17 Then Abraham fell upon his face, and laughed, and said in his heart, Shall a child be born unto him that is an hundred years old? and shall Sarah, that is ninety years old, bear?

Abraham and Sarah were very old and Sarah had not given Abraham any children, not because she didn't want to but because she could not. And after many years of being faithful to God, Abraham and Sarah were blessed to have a Son. 

What do we do when our wives can't give us something that we long for?  We continue to be faithful to them and to God. Many men escape from faithfulness when they feel their needs are not being met. Sometimes it's not your wife's fault that she can not bless you in the way you want to be blessed. Sometimes it may be God withholding things until the appointed time. Abraham loved his wife even though she had not given him a son(a heir) something men of that time long for. He treated her well inspite of her inabilities, and through faith her inability was changed by Gods  Ability. 

Fellows don't give up on your family, put your faith in Gods ability.  It's not over until God says so. God can bless your marriage even after your deadlines. 

Loving your wife while following God

Genesis 3:6 Keeping God first.  Many times as married men we want to do things to keep the peace in our houses. But we must remember keeping peace with your wife at the expense of your relationship with God will cost more than it is worth. If we lead our families in the way of The Lord we will sometimes have to face hard situations but the Lord will lead us to the smooth paths he have paved for us. Don't cause generations to suffer just so you can keep the peace today.