Be not bitter against Her

Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. (‭Colossians‬ ‭3‬:‭19‬ KJV)

Some scriptures are easier said than they are done. When things get heated between us we must apply the scripture and not allow offenses to make there way to our hearts. Bitterness is a heart condition, it takes place when offences are allowed to curdle like spoiled milk in our hearts.  If you have ever tasted spoiled milk it is a taste that is very hard to get out of your mouth just as bitterness is hard to get out of the heart. 

The fact is in marriage we will most likely  Hurt, offend and upset each other. But we must quickly forgive before the offence is allowed to leave its stain and bad smell in our hearts.  

Do you remember why you got married, do you remember the love you had when you said "I DO"?  What has changed since then? Could it be bitterness and or resentment has taken up residence in one of your hearts? If it is your spouse that is resentful, no matter how hard it is go to the top of this post and read the scripture and apply it just as you apply the prescriptions you get from the doctor. If you don't apply the medicine it won't bring about healing. 

Adultery on the Brain

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. (‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭27-28‬ KJV) 

Adultery is not just the act of sex but it is also looking at a woman lustfully. Many men have repented for physical affairs but how often do we repent from spiritual and emotional affairs that take place in our minds. Unchecked thoughts can lead to actions. Let's repent at the sight of sin. 

What if your wife Can't fulfill your needs

 Genesis 17:17 Then Abraham fell upon his face, and laughed, and said in his heart, Shall a child be born unto him that is an hundred years old? and shall Sarah, that is ninety years old, bear?

Abraham and Sarah were very old and Sarah had not given Abraham any children, not because she didn't want to but because she could not. And after many years of being faithful to God, Abraham and Sarah were blessed to have a Son. 

What do we do when our wives can't give us something that we long for?  We continue to be faithful to them and to God. Many men escape from faithfulness when they feel their needs are not being met. Sometimes it's not your wife's fault that she can not bless you in the way you want to be blessed. Sometimes it may be God withholding things until the appointed time. Abraham loved his wife even though she had not given him a son(a heir) something men of that time long for. He treated her well inspite of her inabilities, and through faith her inability was changed by Gods  Ability. 

Fellows don't give up on your family, put your faith in Gods ability.  It's not over until God says so. God can bless your marriage even after your deadlines. 

Loving your wife while following God

Genesis 3:6 Keeping God first.  Many times as married men we want to do things to keep the peace in our houses. But we must remember keeping peace with your wife at the expense of your relationship with God will cost more than it is worth. If we lead our families in the way of The Lord we will sometimes have to face hard situations but the Lord will lead us to the smooth paths he have paved for us. Don't cause generations to suffer just so you can keep the peace today.