In marriage chances are good that something will be done that will offend or hurt you. One things that we must keep in mind is that all has sin and come short of the glory of God, that even includes your spouse. Just as we all need to be forgiven we all also need to forgive. Holding something over your spouses head just so you can have the upper hand is not the will of God. Getting even with your spouse for their failures will hinder your freedom. Today is a good day to let things go!
“But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.”
Often in Marriage we feel that God picks our side in disagreements
Maybe we go to church and our spouse does not
Maybe our past is not as bad as our spouses
Maybe we know all the right Christian statements to make
Maybe we think we are just a better person than our spouse
God does not side with us because we think we are good
As a matter of fact God does not pick the side of humans- It is humans that must pick the side of God- Blessing come when we are in alignment with the will of God
We must learn how to rely on the Word of God so we can know the will of God so that we can be in alignment with God.
When you and I start judging our spouse we often get a critical eye and before you know if we are out of the will of God but we don’t know if because in our own eyes we are better than our spouse so we feel God is now on our side. Not knowing we have fallen into correction.
Stop trying to make God decide between you and your spouse, instead you decide between your will and God’s
“And they told him, and said, We came unto the land whither thou sentest us, and surely it floweth with milk and honey; and this is the fruit of it. Nevertheless the people be strong that dwell in the land, and the cities are walled, and very great: and moreover we saw the children of Anak there. The Amalekites dwell in the land of the south: and the Hittites, and the Jebusites, and the Amorites, dwell in the mountains: and the Canaanites dwell by the sea, and by the coast of Jordan. And Caleb stilled the people before Moses, and said, Let us go up at once, and possess it; for we are well able to overcome it.”
Numbers 13:27-30 KJV
One of the first question I ask any couple now before I perform their weddding ceremony is “ Are you sure this is the person that God wants you to marrry”. The reason for this question is to give them peace when they face the Giants( Large Issues) in marriage. The children of Israel had been promised the land of Canaan by God, but the forgot the promises once they saw how big the inhabitants of the land were. How many times do we forget the promises of God for our marriage when the opposition to the marriage seems greater than the opportunity to be happily married.
Quitting should not be the option, unless there was infidelity in the marriage and even then we should go to God in prayer before we just up and leave. Many couples never see the Milk and Honey of marriage because the check out once the see the giants.
Apply faith to your marriage and watch what God can do!
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”
Many times we are looking for the perfect mate. We want a spouse that meets all of our needs and does all the things we desire. The fact is marriage is a commitment to love our spouses, Past, Present and Futrue.
Past- Our mate comes with life experiences, some good and some bad. We must learn to love them and not shame them for who they were before you all met.
Present- We must love our spouses for who they are. Just as we have internal struggles we must understand that they have internal struggles as well. As we love them the way Christ Loves the Church we help them become who God has ordained them to be just as their love shapes us into the fulfillment of God’s plan for our lives. God places us together for the furtherance of his Kingdom and him Kingdom plan.
Future- The Woman you are married to will not look the same, feel the same, acts the same and think the same 20 years from now as she does today. This means our love has to evolve overtime just as our mate evolves.
Love is not something that we purchase and it stays the same forever, instead love is a gift and part of God that we get the opportunity to share with the one God created for us. It is patient, Kind, and Long lasting.
“Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”
Colossians 3:19 KJV
As men we set the standard for love for our families. Our sons watch us to see how we love their mothers to determine how to treat their spouse in the future. Our daughters watch us as well so that they know what is the standard for love. Our wives depend on our love, and when we fail to give the love that God requires we start a ripple affect that can destroy generations.
Our role as husbands is a very powerful position and should be respected as such. If you would not want a man to break your daughters heart, you should remember that when you are responding to her mother because you are setting the standard.
As men we are patient for the things we want to be patient for like getting in to a sporting event, waiting on food to cook on the grill and waiting for the big fish to bite. So why are we so impatient when it comes to our spouse? Anything you love you will be patient with. This week check your patience level with your wife.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
Being married is not as easy as it seems. Married men face various trials throughout the day that may begin to wear at them.
As a married man you are expected to be:
Strong at all times
Priest of the House
Provider for the House
Confident at all times
Have the answer for the tough questions
Able to deal with the emotional changes in your wife and family without displaying any emotions of your own.
And many other things to many other people
All this pressure if not released could cause us as men to implode or explode.
So how are we to deal with the weight of all the responsibilities that we face. The Scriptures give us insight
“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”
James 5:16 KJV
What if we came together as men and took off all our hats and allowed ourselves to decompress and release our frustration so that we can be prayed over and prayed for.
The Fact is God did not intend for us as men to crack under the pressures of life. If you are struggling today find you some true Godly men that will give you the outlet that you need so that you can break free from the chains of Stress, Fear and being overwhelmed.
Today's Prayer: Father God we pray that you will show us what it truly means to be a man of God that trusts in you as our Lord and Savoir. Men that can release the false weights of manhood that have been placed on us and embrace the true freedom and joy that come with being a surrendered, free man of God