Your marriage must change.

Often times we get stuck in our marriages and we say things like I want things to be how they use to be, but the fact is things can never be the way they use to be because as human beings we are always changing and evolving. So we must learn how to get our marriages to evolve as we evolve as individuals. We must constantly fine new things to love about our spouses as they evolve and as we evolve as well.It is like looking at a precious jewel from multiple angles you begin to enjoy all sides of the jewel even when you discover what other may see as  imperfections, through the eyes of love you see these things as what makes them valuable, unique and precious.  (‭Proverbs‬ ‭17‬:‭8‬ MSG) Receiving a gift is like getting a rare gemstone; any way you look at it, you see beauty refracted.

Learn to Listen

A foolish person is one that thinks they are always right. Often times when someone is speaking a word that corrects us we get upset and shut our ears. But true wisdom comes when we are able to appreciate and accept the knowledge of others. This holds true in marriage as well. There are some things that my wife knows that I don't because she is better experienced in particular areas,it is better to grow from her testimony then to have to be tested in that area myself.‭ we must learn to put our egos aside so we can hear wisdom (Proverbs‬ ‭12‬:‭15‬ MSG) Fools are headstrong and do what they like; wise people take advice. 

Never be too prideful to listen to your spouse.

Arrogant know-it-alls stir up discord, but wise men and women listen to each other’s counsel. (‭Proverbs‬ ‭13‬:‭10‬ MSG)

Pride is a silent killer in a marriage. Many of us have it but we don't identify it until it's too late. We think our way is always the right way. Often times refusing to hear the heart of our mate because we already think we know everything including what they are thinking. We must teach ourselves to be better listeners to our spouses so that not only can we hear what they are saying, we will also be able to understand what they are not saying. 

Love your mate today by hearing their hearts and not just your own thoughts.