Love your wife to and in life

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”

‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:25‬ ‭

Many times we are looking for the perfect mate. We want a spouse that meets all of our needs and does all the things we desire. The fact is marriage is a commitment to love our spouses, Past, Present and Futrue. 

Past- Our mate comes with life experiences, some good and some bad. We must learn to love them and not shame them for who they were before you all met.

Present- We must love our spouses for who they are. Just as we have internal struggles we must understand that they have internal struggles as well. As we love them the way Christ Loves the Church we help them become who God has ordained them to be just as their love shapes us into the fulfillment of God’s plan for our lives. God places us together for the furtherance of his Kingdom and him Kingdom plan.

Future- The Woman you are married to will not look the same, feel the same, acts the same and think the same 20 years from now as she does today. This means our love has to evolve overtime just as our mate evolves.

Love is not something that we purchase and it stays the same forever, instead love is a gift and part of God that we get the opportunity to share with the one God created for us. It is patient, Kind, and Long lasting.

Lead your Family in Love

“Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”

‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:19‬ ‭KJV‬‬

http://bible.com/1/col.3.19.kjv

As men we set the standard for love for our families. Our sons watch us to see how we love their mothers to determine how to treat their spouse in the future. Our daughters watch us as well so that they know what is the standard for love. Our wives depend on our love, and when we fail to give the love that God requires we start a ripple affect that can destroy generations. 

Our role as husbands is a very powerful position and should be respected as such. If you would not want a man to break your daughters heart, you should remember that when you are responding to her mother because you are setting the standard. 

Be Patient

As men we are patient for the things we want to be patient for like getting in to a sporting event, waiting on food to cook on the grill and waiting for the big fish to bite. So why are we so impatient when it comes to our spouse? Anything you love you will be patient with. This week check your patience level with your wife. 

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:4-7‬ ‭ESV‬‬